Step 2: Reassess your mindset
Ali Novitsky, MD, an obesity medicine physician and now full-time life coach, calls this attitude the “heaven’s reward fallacy.” Observed by renowned psychiatrist Aaron Beck, MD, this cognitive distortion involves imagining that hard work, struggle, and self-sacrifice must ultimately pay off, as if suffering entitles us to compensation in the future. For physicians, who are embedded in a culture of selflessness and dedication to the health of others, this often means forfeiting their own health and well-being.
For many, there is also a sense of secrecy and shame regarding health and fitness problems. As doctors, they are experts in the human body. They should already know how to lose weight. Right? And so not knowing or being unable to muster the will power for a diet plan while on call overnight or working 12-hour shifts feels like a professional failure as well as a personal one.
“As physicians, we’re so afraid to fail,” Dr. Novitsky explained. “It’s more comfortable just to not know. Maybe we’ve failed before, or maybe we didn’t get the result that we wanted, so now we can’t bear to have that happen again. It’s just way too painful.”
Dr. Novitsky – who has herself lost 50 pounds and have kept it off for 20 years – provides weight loss, intuitive eating, and fitness programs for female physicians. Her evidence-based approach aims to optimize body composition rather than hitting a number on a scale. Conscious of the physician lifestyle, she offers night and weekend meetings, sessions that can be replayed, and even an “on-call workout” series designed for being in the call room.
Dr. Novitsky notices that many of her clients are stuck in an “all-or-none” mindset. If they can’t do something perfectly with total commitment, they would rather not do it at all. With so many demands on their time and energy, something has to give, and putting their health first begins to seem selfish or hopeless. “I can speak to this,” Dr. Novitsky admitted, “because I did it to myself”
Like Dr. Ubell, Dr. Novitsky said that “most of the stuff we’re coaching on is not about their food. It’s about how they feel undervalued at work, how their relationships are suffering, how they feel super guilty as a parent. They feel like they look good on paper, but this is not the life they signed up for.”
Step 3: Life change equals physical change
Siobhan Key, MD, an obesity medicine and family physician, sees her own weight loss struggle as a symptom of a former lifestyle that, frankly, “sucked.”
Her grueling schedule and lack of self-care left her feeling stuck on a “hamster wheel” of work and family responsibilities. There was no space for herself. She craved the dopamine burst from junk food and felt powerless to stop reaching for Wendy’s French fries as a frequent reward. It took realizing that she was on track to develop type 2 diabetes to motivate her to change.
Where she lived also affected her struggle. Living in the small community of Prince George, B.C., local weight-loss programs were difficult for Dr. Key. It was likely that she would encounter some of her patients, which would not be a safe space to reveal her personal challenges. Searching for an expert who could explain how to eat healthy meals while on call and then working a full day afterward also yielded no solutions.
Unlike Dr. Ubell and Dr. Novitsky, Dr. Key still practices medicine. But she is also a weight-loss coach. She takes an unconventional approach by not proposing any specific diet rules or plans. Dictating which foods you can or cannot eat is like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole, Dr. Key said. It will never work long term. Instead, she wants to help her clients use both their medical knowledge and life experience to make healthy eating fit into their lives.
“Let’s stop doing things that makes our lives worse just to lose weight, because it will never be sustainable,” said Dr. Key. “Rather, let’s choose paths of losing weight and managing our eating that actually make our lives better. And those exist. They’re just not the classic diet paths that we’ve been taught before.”
Dr. Key’s program also includes advice from other physician coaches on professional struggles. For example, charting is a big one, Dr. Key said. The pressure of completing patient notes, often outside of working hours, is a major source of stress that triggers a lot of eating.
Weight loss doesn’t happen in a vacuum, Dr. Key pointed out. It isn’t the simple “eat less, exercise more” equation that physicians learned in medical school. “The reality is, weight loss and eating happen in conjunction with the rest of your life,” she said.
Find ways to make your life easier and the benefits will follow, she said. “As your life gets better, you feel more empowered. You feel less stressed. Your eating choices start to be simpler, and the cravings start to go down. You can’t have one without the other.”
Weight is just a symptom of a bigger problem
Dr. Ubell, Dr. Novitsky, and Dr. Key all say they have seen dramatic transformations among their clients. They don’t mean just physical ones. Dr. Ubell remembered an emergency medicine physician so miserable at work that she considered defaulting on her student loans. Dr. Novitsky recalled an anesthesiologist so insecure that she nearly passed up a scholarship to a fitness program. Dr. Key has seen clients so obsessed with what they should and shouldn’t eat that food dominated their thoughts every free minute of the day.
All these doctors, the coaches said, have been able to regain a sense of control over their lives, rethink how they show up at work and at home, and even rediscover their joy in medicine.
These changes are less about body mass index and more about confidence and self-love. For weight loss to last, according to Dr. Ubell, Dr. Novitsky, and Dr. Key, there must be permanent mental shifts that redefine one’s relationship with food.
“There’s no finish line when we’re talking about long-term weight maintenance,” Dr. Key tells physicians. “You have to be able to do it for the rest of your life.”
A version of this article first appeared on Medscape.com.