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Recent newspaper headlines have focused almost exclusively on gender-affirming medical interventions for transgender youth (eg, puberty blockers and gender-affirming hormones like estrogen and testosterone). It is true that these are important treatments that are consistently tied to improvements in mental health. However, an additional powerful predictor of good mental health outcomes for transgender youth is parental support and acceptance.
It is essential that clinicians consider this when creating treatment plans for transgender youth. Sadly, they are often afraid to share their own struggles, despite working through these being essential for their children’s thriving and well-being. I have a few key tips for combating this issue. My upcoming book Free to Be: Understanding Kids & Gender Identity provides much more context for parents and providers, but I will highlight a few big takeaways here.
Give Parents Their Own Space
Many parents have never encountered a transgender person in their life and have a lot of questions. At times, they may be “thinking out loud” and say things in passing that aren’t their final thoughts or opinions on a matter. This can, unfortunately, be damaging to their children. I often speak with adult transgender people whose parents said something they no longer believe (eg, “being trans is just a mental illness – you need therapy to fix it”), but these comments stick in the person’s mind and drive shame and self-esteem challenges later in life, sometimes for decades. Parents need to have a safe space, with a trained professional with expertise in gender, to work through their concerns and questions away from their children, so that when they talk to their kids about gender, they are presenting their fully formed thoughts.
Validate Parents’ Difficult Experiences
As pediatric providers, we are often focused on the difficult experiences of our transgender pediatric patients. However, their parents tend to be struggling as well, and that struggling predicts adverse mental health outcomes for their children.
The most common reaction a parent has upon learning their child is transgender is fear. It’s important to validate this fear (and other feelings that come out), so that parents know they can share with you what’s really going on in their minds.
There are some common themes we see for parents. Some are big fears: fear that their child will be victimized or fear that their child will later regret taking gender-affirming hormones and blame the parents for giving permission to take them. Parents often say they had a gendered vision for what their child’s future would be like, and their child coming out as transgender changes that (it can be helpful to gently remind parents that children almost never grow up exactly how we predict).
Some themes are more mundane but nonetheless distressing for parents, such as not wanting to throw away meaningful souvenirs from past vacations that have their child’s birth name on them. Clinicians can and should validate these thoughts and feelings, while also providing additional context and education. I often recommend the book Found in Transition by Pariah Hassouri, a pediatrician who goes through many of these common struggles after her daughter comes out as transgender.
Take a Three-Stage Approach When Adolescents Are Considering Gender-Affirming Medical Interventions
We recently outlined our process for conducting a biopsychosocial assessment for adolescents considering pubertal suppression for adolescent gender dysphoria in The Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, for those who want more detail on how to conduct these assessments. On the theme of supporting parents, I would highlight the value of taking a three-stage approach. In the first stage, a clinician meets with an adolescent alone to collect their gender history and discuss important considerations regarding the medical intervention. In stage two, the same information about the medical intervention is shared with parents, along with a summary of what the adolescent shared with the clinician (with the adolescent’s consent, of course). Often there will be some areas of disconnect. We make a list of these areas of disconnect that are addressed in stage three, in which the full family is brought together to get everyone on the same page and understanding each other’s perspectives.
Common disconnects include gender dysphoria seeming to “come out of nowhere” from the parents’ perspective, necessitating the young person to recount an early life experience in which they were harassed for expressing gender nonconformity, leading them to act stereotypically in line with their sex assigned at birth for years to avoid being “outed” and harassed more. Conversations around fertility preservation can be particularly complex. Young people and their parents also sometimes have different conceptualizations of gender identity and require a shared framework for talking about gender identity (which I offer in my forthcoming book). This list of family therapy topics can be diverse and highly dependent on the family. An additional resource for this phase of the family therapy is The Family Acceptance Project, which has created culturally tailored materials to help parents understand their sexual and gender minority children.
In summary, fostering healthy family functioning is essential for the care of transgender and gender diverse youth, and parents require support in addition to their children needing support. I encourage all gender providers to incorporate the vital element of family therapy into their practice.
Dr. Turban is director of the Gender Psychiatry Program at the University of California, San Francisco, where he is an assistant professor of child & adolescent psychiatry and affiliate faculty at the Philip R. Lee Institute for Health Policy Studies. He is on X @jack_turban.
Recent newspaper headlines have focused almost exclusively on gender-affirming medical interventions for transgender youth (eg, puberty blockers and gender-affirming hormones like estrogen and testosterone). It is true that these are important treatments that are consistently tied to improvements in mental health. However, an additional powerful predictor of good mental health outcomes for transgender youth is parental support and acceptance.
It is essential that clinicians consider this when creating treatment plans for transgender youth. Sadly, they are often afraid to share their own struggles, despite working through these being essential for their children’s thriving and well-being. I have a few key tips for combating this issue. My upcoming book Free to Be: Understanding Kids & Gender Identity provides much more context for parents and providers, but I will highlight a few big takeaways here.
Give Parents Their Own Space
Many parents have never encountered a transgender person in their life and have a lot of questions. At times, they may be “thinking out loud” and say things in passing that aren’t their final thoughts or opinions on a matter. This can, unfortunately, be damaging to their children. I often speak with adult transgender people whose parents said something they no longer believe (eg, “being trans is just a mental illness – you need therapy to fix it”), but these comments stick in the person’s mind and drive shame and self-esteem challenges later in life, sometimes for decades. Parents need to have a safe space, with a trained professional with expertise in gender, to work through their concerns and questions away from their children, so that when they talk to their kids about gender, they are presenting their fully formed thoughts.
Validate Parents’ Difficult Experiences
As pediatric providers, we are often focused on the difficult experiences of our transgender pediatric patients. However, their parents tend to be struggling as well, and that struggling predicts adverse mental health outcomes for their children.
The most common reaction a parent has upon learning their child is transgender is fear. It’s important to validate this fear (and other feelings that come out), so that parents know they can share with you what’s really going on in their minds.
There are some common themes we see for parents. Some are big fears: fear that their child will be victimized or fear that their child will later regret taking gender-affirming hormones and blame the parents for giving permission to take them. Parents often say they had a gendered vision for what their child’s future would be like, and their child coming out as transgender changes that (it can be helpful to gently remind parents that children almost never grow up exactly how we predict).
Some themes are more mundane but nonetheless distressing for parents, such as not wanting to throw away meaningful souvenirs from past vacations that have their child’s birth name on them. Clinicians can and should validate these thoughts and feelings, while also providing additional context and education. I often recommend the book Found in Transition by Pariah Hassouri, a pediatrician who goes through many of these common struggles after her daughter comes out as transgender.
Take a Three-Stage Approach When Adolescents Are Considering Gender-Affirming Medical Interventions
We recently outlined our process for conducting a biopsychosocial assessment for adolescents considering pubertal suppression for adolescent gender dysphoria in The Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, for those who want more detail on how to conduct these assessments. On the theme of supporting parents, I would highlight the value of taking a three-stage approach. In the first stage, a clinician meets with an adolescent alone to collect their gender history and discuss important considerations regarding the medical intervention. In stage two, the same information about the medical intervention is shared with parents, along with a summary of what the adolescent shared with the clinician (with the adolescent’s consent, of course). Often there will be some areas of disconnect. We make a list of these areas of disconnect that are addressed in stage three, in which the full family is brought together to get everyone on the same page and understanding each other’s perspectives.
Common disconnects include gender dysphoria seeming to “come out of nowhere” from the parents’ perspective, necessitating the young person to recount an early life experience in which they were harassed for expressing gender nonconformity, leading them to act stereotypically in line with their sex assigned at birth for years to avoid being “outed” and harassed more. Conversations around fertility preservation can be particularly complex. Young people and their parents also sometimes have different conceptualizations of gender identity and require a shared framework for talking about gender identity (which I offer in my forthcoming book). This list of family therapy topics can be diverse and highly dependent on the family. An additional resource for this phase of the family therapy is The Family Acceptance Project, which has created culturally tailored materials to help parents understand their sexual and gender minority children.
In summary, fostering healthy family functioning is essential for the care of transgender and gender diverse youth, and parents require support in addition to their children needing support. I encourage all gender providers to incorporate the vital element of family therapy into their practice.
Dr. Turban is director of the Gender Psychiatry Program at the University of California, San Francisco, where he is an assistant professor of child & adolescent psychiatry and affiliate faculty at the Philip R. Lee Institute for Health Policy Studies. He is on X @jack_turban.
Recent newspaper headlines have focused almost exclusively on gender-affirming medical interventions for transgender youth (eg, puberty blockers and gender-affirming hormones like estrogen and testosterone). It is true that these are important treatments that are consistently tied to improvements in mental health. However, an additional powerful predictor of good mental health outcomes for transgender youth is parental support and acceptance.
It is essential that clinicians consider this when creating treatment plans for transgender youth. Sadly, they are often afraid to share their own struggles, despite working through these being essential for their children’s thriving and well-being. I have a few key tips for combating this issue. My upcoming book Free to Be: Understanding Kids & Gender Identity provides much more context for parents and providers, but I will highlight a few big takeaways here.
Give Parents Their Own Space
Many parents have never encountered a transgender person in their life and have a lot of questions. At times, they may be “thinking out loud” and say things in passing that aren’t their final thoughts or opinions on a matter. This can, unfortunately, be damaging to their children. I often speak with adult transgender people whose parents said something they no longer believe (eg, “being trans is just a mental illness – you need therapy to fix it”), but these comments stick in the person’s mind and drive shame and self-esteem challenges later in life, sometimes for decades. Parents need to have a safe space, with a trained professional with expertise in gender, to work through their concerns and questions away from their children, so that when they talk to their kids about gender, they are presenting their fully formed thoughts.
Validate Parents’ Difficult Experiences
As pediatric providers, we are often focused on the difficult experiences of our transgender pediatric patients. However, their parents tend to be struggling as well, and that struggling predicts adverse mental health outcomes for their children.
The most common reaction a parent has upon learning their child is transgender is fear. It’s important to validate this fear (and other feelings that come out), so that parents know they can share with you what’s really going on in their minds.
There are some common themes we see for parents. Some are big fears: fear that their child will be victimized or fear that their child will later regret taking gender-affirming hormones and blame the parents for giving permission to take them. Parents often say they had a gendered vision for what their child’s future would be like, and their child coming out as transgender changes that (it can be helpful to gently remind parents that children almost never grow up exactly how we predict).
Some themes are more mundane but nonetheless distressing for parents, such as not wanting to throw away meaningful souvenirs from past vacations that have their child’s birth name on them. Clinicians can and should validate these thoughts and feelings, while also providing additional context and education. I often recommend the book Found in Transition by Pariah Hassouri, a pediatrician who goes through many of these common struggles after her daughter comes out as transgender.
Take a Three-Stage Approach When Adolescents Are Considering Gender-Affirming Medical Interventions
We recently outlined our process for conducting a biopsychosocial assessment for adolescents considering pubertal suppression for adolescent gender dysphoria in The Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, for those who want more detail on how to conduct these assessments. On the theme of supporting parents, I would highlight the value of taking a three-stage approach. In the first stage, a clinician meets with an adolescent alone to collect their gender history and discuss important considerations regarding the medical intervention. In stage two, the same information about the medical intervention is shared with parents, along with a summary of what the adolescent shared with the clinician (with the adolescent’s consent, of course). Often there will be some areas of disconnect. We make a list of these areas of disconnect that are addressed in stage three, in which the full family is brought together to get everyone on the same page and understanding each other’s perspectives.
Common disconnects include gender dysphoria seeming to “come out of nowhere” from the parents’ perspective, necessitating the young person to recount an early life experience in which they were harassed for expressing gender nonconformity, leading them to act stereotypically in line with their sex assigned at birth for years to avoid being “outed” and harassed more. Conversations around fertility preservation can be particularly complex. Young people and their parents also sometimes have different conceptualizations of gender identity and require a shared framework for talking about gender identity (which I offer in my forthcoming book). This list of family therapy topics can be diverse and highly dependent on the family. An additional resource for this phase of the family therapy is The Family Acceptance Project, which has created culturally tailored materials to help parents understand their sexual and gender minority children.
In summary, fostering healthy family functioning is essential for the care of transgender and gender diverse youth, and parents require support in addition to their children needing support. I encourage all gender providers to incorporate the vital element of family therapy into their practice.
Dr. Turban is director of the Gender Psychiatry Program at the University of California, San Francisco, where he is an assistant professor of child & adolescent psychiatry and affiliate faculty at the Philip R. Lee Institute for Health Policy Studies. He is on X @jack_turban.
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However, an additional powerful predictor of good mental health outcomes for transgender youth is parental support and acceptance.</p> <p>It is essential that clinicians consider this when creating treatment plans for transgender youth. <span class="tag metaDescription">While transgender young people are struggling with gender dysphoria, their parents are often struggling as well.</span> Sadly, they are often afraid to share their own struggles, despite working through these being essential for their children’s thriving and well-being. I have a few key tips for combating this issue. My upcoming book <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Free-Be-Understanding-Gender-Identity/dp/1668017040">Free to Be: Understanding Kids & Gender Identity</a></em> provides much more context for parents and providers, but I will highlight a few big takeaways here.[[{"fid":"285541","view_mode":"medstat_image_flush_left","fields":{"format":"medstat_image_flush_left","field_file_image_alt_text[und][0][value]":"Dr. Jack L. Turban, University of California, San Francisco","field_file_image_credit[und][0][value]":"Stanford Lucille Packard Children's Hospital.","field_file_image_caption[und][0][value]":"Dr. Jack L. Turban"},"type":"media","attributes":{"class":"media-element file-medstat_image_flush_left"}}]]<br/><br/> </p> <h2>Give Parents Their Own Space</h2> <p>Many parents have never encountered a transgender person in their life and have a lot of questions. At times, they may be “thinking out loud” and say things in passing that aren’t their final thoughts or opinions on a matter. This can, unfortunately, be damaging to their children. I often speak with adult transgender people whose parents said something they no longer believe (eg, “being trans is just a mental illness – you need therapy to fix it”), but these comments stick in the person’s mind and drive shame and self-esteem challenges later in life, sometimes for decades. Parents need to have a safe space, with a trained professional with expertise in gender, to work through their concerns and questions away from their children, so that when they talk to their kids about gender, they are presenting their fully formed thoughts.</p> <p> </p> <h2>Validate Parents’ Difficult Experiences</h2> <p>As pediatric providers, we are often focused on the difficult experiences of our transgender pediatric patients. However, their parents tend to be struggling as well, and that struggling predicts adverse mental health outcomes for their children.</p> <p>The most common reaction a parent has upon learning their child is transgender is fear. It’s important to validate this fear (and other feelings that come out), so that parents know they can share with you what’s really going on in their minds.<br/><br/>There are some common themes we see for parents. Some are big fears: fear that their child will be victimized or fear that their child will later regret taking gender-affirming hormones and blame the parents for giving permission to take them. Parents often say they had a gendered vision for what their child’s future would be like, and their child coming out as transgender changes that (it can be helpful to gently remind parents that children almost never grow up exactly how we predict).<br/><br/>Some themes are more mundane but nonetheless distressing for parents, such as not wanting to throw away meaningful souvenirs from past vacations that have their child’s birth name on them. Clinicians can and should validate these thoughts and feelings, while also providing additional context and education. I often recommend the book <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Found-Transition-Mothers-Evolution-during/dp/1608687082">Found in Transition</a></em> by Pariah Hassouri, a pediatrician who goes through many of these common struggles after her daughter comes out as transgender.<br/><br/> </p> <h2>Take a Three-Stage Approach When Adolescents Are Considering Gender-Affirming Medical Interventions</h2> <p>We recently outlined <span class="Hyperlink"><a href="https://www.jaacap.org/article/S0890-8567(24)00178-3/fulltext">our process for conducting a biopsychosocial assessment</a></span> for adolescents considering pubertal suppression for adolescent gender dysphoria in <em>The Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry</em>, for those who want more detail on how to conduct these assessments. On the theme of supporting parents, I would highlight the value of taking a three-stage approach. In the first stage, a clinician meets with an adolescent alone to collect their gender history and discuss important considerations regarding the medical intervention. In stage two, the same information about the medical intervention is shared with parents, along with a summary of what the adolescent shared with the clinician (with the adolescent’s consent, of course). Often there will be some areas of disconnect. We make a list of these areas of disconnect that are addressed in stage three, in which the full family is brought together to get everyone on the same page and understanding each other’s perspectives. </p> <p>Common disconnects include gender dysphoria seeming to “come out of nowhere” from the parents’ perspective, necessitating the young person to recount an early life experience in which they were harassed for expressing gender nonconformity, leading them to act stereotypically in line with their sex assigned at birth <span class="Hyperlink"><a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36935303/">for years</a></span> to avoid being “outed” and harassed more. Conversations around fertility preservation can be particularly complex. Young people and their parents also sometimes have different conceptualizations of gender identity and require a shared framework for talking about gender identity (which I offer in my forthcoming book). This list of family therapy topics can be diverse and highly dependent on the family. An additional resource for this phase of the family therapy is <span class="Hyperlink"><a href="https://familyproject.sfsu.edu/">The Family Acceptance Project</a></span>, which has created culturally tailored materials to help parents understand their sexual and gender minority children.<br/><br/>In summary, fostering healthy family functioning is essential for the care of transgender and gender diverse youth, and parents require support in addition to their children needing support. I encourage all gender providers to incorporate the vital element of family therapy into their practice.<span class="end"/><br/><br/> </p> <p> <em>Dr. Turban is director of the Gender Psychiatry Program at the University of California, San Francisco, where he is an assistant professor of child & adolescent psychiatry and affiliate faculty at the Philip R. Lee Institute for Health Policy Studies. 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